Are you triggered right now?
Skin crawling, about to jump out of your body with urges?
I know you want to just do it and have it over with. I know you want relief. But can you please try something for me first before resorting to that?
Drop your hands into your lap. Adjust your position so every muscle and joint can fall into a comfortable position. Drop your tense shoulders. Stop clenching your jaw. Slowly breathe in through your nose; a good deep breath, not one from your chest. Hold it for a second before letting it fall back out of you sending all that tension with it. Let your face relax. Imagine you’re sitting somewhere perfectly relaxing and safe. A beach with waves lapping at the shore. A forest with wind rustling the leaves. A cozy seat in a corner of a bookstore.
Comfort exists. Happiness exists. You are capable of feeling comfortable and happy. You are capable of being okay again. You are capable of healing. Every moment you fight takes you a step closer to comfort and happiness and healing.
You’re a badass warrior, and that urge is just a sound in your head that you do not have to obey. You’re so much bigger than this.
I know you can do it
Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.
Spreading the word.
My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.
It’s a common theme across the majority of cultures that protecting ones ‘face’ (not your actual face, but your self as in how you’re viewed) is one of our highest subconscious priorities.
Calling someone out in public for bad behaviour is the quickest way to nip 9/10 situations in the bud. Most people will be mortified, they’ll be embarrassed, they’ll be panicked because they probably weren’t expecting anything other than quiet submission.
Be bold and be brave, because we live in a world where most people don’t expect it ergo we can take advantage of it.
/POWER IN TALK, 3RD YEAR LINGUISTICS MODULE
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#people are so stupid
In junior high and highschool, I had a lot of friends who left being trafficked (what was then called white slavery and is now called human trafficking).
When I bought up the point that there were still people in slavery in the United States, I was laughed at in college.
When I wrote my graduate paper on the ways such victims can be compinsated and the ethics involved, my professor originally told me to choose a new topic. I had to have one of my other professors, who regularly went on bust of human trafficers, step in and talk to him about it in order to validate the subject matter.
I now expect people not to beleive me when I bring the subject up. They simply do not beleive it exists. Which allows it to continue.
It continues to leave me stunned that there are people who are unaware of slavery in the US. How… just how…
"The ability to “fantasize” is the ability to survive. It’s wonderful to speak about this subject because there have been so many wrong-headed people dealing with it…. The so-called realists are trying to drive us insane, and I refuse to be driven insane…. We survive by fantasizing. Take that away from us and the whole damned human race goes down the drain."